Every parent’s expectation is to have a natural progression and a healthy relationship upon the arrival of the second child into the family but as the children grows up it takes a whole new direction.
You will agree with me that siblings relationship is one of the closet bond anybody can have, that is why fighting is inevitable among siblings. It brings them closer to one another. I experienced it with my younger siblings. The relationship you have with a sibling is unparalleled in every aspect of a human relationship.
I would like to say that these fights are healthy to some extend but when it is not handled and resolved properly drives siblings apart. It’s the love siblings have for each other that keeps them together despite all those fights that occur. So no matter how old we become we still fight with our siblings throughout life.
There are lots of different reason that causes rift between siblings and the exact causes of these rivalry in one family are almost never the same as the causes of sibling rivalry in another family.
If we want to minimize or get rid of conflict among our children, we need to understand the reasons for siblings rivalry.
1. Touching or taking the other’s person belongings: Remember growing up, I was so possessive of my things. If my brothers or sister takes any of my belongings without asking then there is going to be a very big fight. My younger sister dare not use my makeup or clothes or shoes or my bag. In fact, I beat her up if she does. It was that bad…One faithful day, I just realized that my sister wore my top without asking and I didn’t feel awkward about it and I didn’t understand how I manged to come out of that possessiveness. I guess as we grew older and closer things changed for the better.
There are somethings in our children’s life that they can be overly possessive over, from toys to phones, clothes, personal diaries, etc and when it is touched by a sibling especially when its not asked for that is asking for trouble. More often than not, instead of explaining it to them calmly not to touch their stuff, they start not only a fight but full-fledged battles which just go on and on.
Solution: don’t touch each other’s private stuff.
To be continued…