The role we play as parents is key to a child’s psychological development. It is very important for us parents to have a knowledge about different aspect of child psychology and development so that we can know how to meaningfully contribute to our children’s emotional and mental growth. Lack of understanding of it can led to poor judgement of our kids which then make us make poor decisions as parents.
Ways to understand your child’s psychological develoment
Observation is one effective way to learn about your child’s psychology. Which we have considered in my previous post. What your child like most to do? How he/she reacts towards doing something he/she doesn’t like. For example, sleeping early or doing homework? How social is he? Is he/her willing to share or try new things? How long is the child taking to familiarize himself/herself with his/her surroundings? Is he/she able to adjust to the changes in the environment?
Spend quality time. In spending time in conversation with your child(ren), it helps to know what is going on in their lives at school, and home, what their favorite music or TV show is, and what gets them excited and what doesn’t. Read more on spending quality time from previous post.
Children express themselves in different ways. Children has the tendency to express themselves different ways. Apart from talking, they also express how they feel through activities. What ever our children loves to do like an hobby or a gifting like drawing, writing, acting, singing etc, as parents we should encourage them to do it better without restriction. We can provide them a platform where they can help them improve. For example enroll him/her for music class. We can also encourage them to write down things like what they did for d day and how they feel about it that way the more they do what they like the better they become at it. Let them explain what they are writing or drawing and how they feel about it.
Step Into Your Child’s Shoes. There are times we need to think or act like a child to understand them better. As parents Empathy is an important quality to develop if we want to understand or come close to what our children are experiencing . Listen to their feelings; try to gauge what they are going through. You can empathize by understanding their language to help them understand you and if u don’t understand your child’s behavior you can consider being in your child’s shoe to imagine how you have behaved or reacted.
Pay Attention To Your Child’s Environment. A child’s behavior and attitudes are shaped largely by the environment that he/she was brought up in and by the kind of people around him and the kind of people that interact with him . To know the child better, you should pay attention to the environment. Environment also has its way of affecting a child’s brain development which in turn affect his language and cognitive skills. Take time to examine the kind of ambiance that has been created at home and school. For example: if your child is aggressive or stop being social, you may need to know who or what is the reason for the aggressiveness or lack of socialization
Understand How A Child’s Brain Functions. Understanding how a child’s brain functions can help you learn about the kid’s behavior, his decision-making, social, logical, and cognitive abilities. The wrong experiences can result in imprinting negative responses into your child’s mind, having an adverse affect on his overall development.
According to Daniel J. Siegel, author of The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, you can help your children build a solid foundation for a healthy social and emotional life, and enable them to handle difficult situations with ease, by understanding the brain’s functions.
Ask the Right Questions It is very important to ask the right kind of questions if you want your child to talk. You should imitate conversation through open questions to encourage the child to share details. For example do you like this song which you would definitely get a yes or no. Next question should be what do you like about the song? This will give room for the child to say more about the song.
Never cut your child off when. You want them to talk
Never dodge the questions your child asks. If you Do not have the answer as at the time of asking, you can just ignore it but make sure you come back with an answer later. Not responding to their questions can discourage them from asking you questions in the future. Sometime you hear parents classify their question asking children as talkative